In the song, “What I Got,” Sublime famously sang the line, “Fucking and fighting, it’s all the same.” And I have often thought over the years about whether or not there is any truth to that. There definitely seems to be a sort of primitive connection in the brain between the instinct to fuck and the instinct to fight. Both can be rather aggressive and cathartic activities, sure, not to mention the fact that there are so many power dynamics going on during sex. One might characterize sex as being about control. Sometimes we dominate, sometimes we want to be submissive, and sometimes we want to fight for dominance over our partners.